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Julie
07-30-2007, 07:17 AM
The kids and I were invited by my father in law to spend the month of Aug at His house. We've been making these plans for oh the past six months or so....and the kids have been bouncing off the walls excited because going to visit their grandparents in Kelowna is just about the best thing in the world to them....

So I get a phone call tonight at ~7pm from my (step) Mother in law saying "Oh Pat (Her son) just told me you guys are planning to come up next weekend (the long weekend) I didn't know you guys were comming up. I thought you wern't comming untill the end of the month. You can't come I just invited a friend and her 4 kids to come stay with us for the next 2 weeks."

I am fucken LIVID. 6 months we have been making these plans. Twice a week for hte last 2 months my father in law has been calling telling the kids and I how excited they are to have us comming and all the great things they have planned.

They know we can't come up at the end of the month...the kids have SCHOOL starting. How the fuck were we suposed to spend a month with them in SEPTEMBER?!?!? They knew that I have a wedding to go to near the end of Aug and that the kids and I HAD to be home for that.

SIX FUCKEN MONTHS we have been making plans for this.

The kids Dad had to beg and plead his job to ensure he had the long weeknd off (Thanks to the huge fucken oil spill he's been working 26 hours on 22 off for the last week and will be doing that for the next few weeks, getting the weekend off let alone the entire long weekend is amazing)

So there I was on the phone with Step Mother in law as she is uninviting us and I say to her

"I can't be on the phone right now I'm extremly upset" And hang up on her.

10 min later my father in law calls me and says "I'll call so and so and tell them they can't come now, you know you and the kids are always welcome to come visit anytime"

Ummm no no we are not, we were just told we were inconvient and we can't come up, ask your wife. There is no way I feel "welcome" now.


This isn't the first time they have done things like this to Mike and I and the kids. I can't remember how many times we have head "Were comming down for the weekend we will meet you *here* at *insert time*" Only to have them decide at the last minuite that visiting the fucken METH HEAD junky is more important. We stopped telling the kids "Hey we are going to meet Grandma and Grandpa for lunch!"

Hell these people didn't even find out that our second child had been born untill she was six weeks old....and only then because I forgot Mikes Aunt worked at a certian store and I went shopping there.

How the fuck and I suposed to explain this to the kids? My eight year old went and packed his stuff today...he's so freaking excited to go.

My parents told me today that if Mikey ended up stuck at work that they would drive the kids and I there....Just cause they know how important this vist is to their Grandkids....

What Am I going to tell the kids? They are going to be fucken heart broken. How they fuck to I say this to them?

How the fuck can their Grandparents treat them this way?

ceptimus
07-30-2007, 07:23 AM
Damn, that's some fucked-up shit. Is there any alternative vacation spot that's available to you? Stay with some other friends? :comfort:

Shelli
07-30-2007, 11:33 AM
Yeah, what cep said. Try to make use of the weekend somehow anyway.

Also... :hug:

beyelzu
07-30-2007, 11:39 AM
damn, julie, that does suck as others have said.

i dont know how the granddad is normally but in this case it seems that maybe he didnt know what the grandmother did. is she normally a bitch.

and for the kids if he is good as his word maybe you should go.

it would probably be icy with the grandbitch.

but fuck it.

livius drusus
07-30-2007, 12:49 PM
I agree with bey. Follow up with grandad to make sure he uninvites the other people, then just go. Step-grandmom can suck it.

Julie
07-30-2007, 01:43 PM
No this is pretty much the straw that broke the camels back...

They have both been jerks before. There have been many instences where we have made plans with them and they back out at the last minuite.

Its been to the point where we don't normally tell the kids about plans with them...and its been like that for several years.

This is a pattern of behaviour from them....this is just the most extreme example.

At this point we will not be continueing a relationship with them, for the sake of the children. It's not fair for the kids to have their hearts broken by their grandparents, over and over.

Mike basically told his Dad to Fuck off and don't bother calling us ever again last night.


And ya going to stay with friends isn't an option...and really wouldn't be any fun...they all live about 10 min from us, heh, and anyway it's besides the point. The point was this was a trip for the kids to go spend some time with the grandparents they don't get to see weekly....

livius drusus
07-30-2007, 01:47 PM
That reeks, Jules. I'm sorry. :(

Is there anything relatively close by but still fun y'all could do? Nothing fancy, but like a nice waterpark or a crazy mini-golf place where you could spend a couple of days and stay in a motel or something?

LadyShea
07-30-2007, 02:04 PM
Goddam that's cold. Poor kids!

Watser?
07-30-2007, 02:29 PM
Wow that sucks :sadcheer:

Stormlight
07-30-2007, 02:40 PM
That's just pathetic of them. :(

Julie
07-30-2007, 02:41 PM
Meh that whole not being able to walk thing I now do kinda makes just popping off for a weekend impossible. I can't take the kids off by myself anymore and there isn't a way for Mike to get more than the 3 days off. Plus there is no budget for hotels and whatnot....Hell we can't even go camping..it's the long weekend and the camp grounds would be stupid packed and not have any spaces free...and thats if I could go camping which I can't.

I'm going to take the kids to the aquarium (http://www.vanaqua.org/home/) and to science world (http://www.scienceworld.bc.ca/). But we do that often anyways and it wont make it up to them.

This trip was our big thing we had planned for the summer. It's the one thing they really really wanted to do.

Leesifer
07-30-2007, 04:59 PM
Wow Julie. I don't blame you for severing ties with them at all. :(

Uthgar the Brazen
07-30-2007, 05:29 PM
:grouphug:

Shake
07-30-2007, 09:01 PM
To paraphrase Norm from Cheers:
"Family: can't live with 'em ... pass the beer nuts."