Like a virgin...

[Bella]

There's a woman in my class, Monica, who is a 40ish lesbian. She is embarking upon a relationship with a 20ish woman who is exploring her sexuality - this girl has never had sexual contact with anyone before (never even masturbated) and the only thing she and Monica have done so far is kissed passionately, without the feely-feely bit.

Monica is confused as to how to proceed, and asked me for advice <eek!>. How does one go about making first-time sex pleasurable when one party doesn't even know what they like? She doesn't want there to be lots of fumbling around and embarassing "so, how's this? no...so this? okay, let's try..." because she wants the first time to be somewhat fruitful. I have no advice because when I first had sex with Jek neither of us had had sex with a woman before so it was mutual thumb-fumble.

So - have any of you had a virgin? Any advice for a first-timer?

[seebs]

No, but I've spent some time talking to them occasionally. Talking is a good way to learn about what you like; say, which thoughts turn you on and so on. IM programs offer a way to have these conversations without quite so much blushing and mumbling. :)

[livius drusus]

:bump: because Bree is on and I'm curious to hear if there's any news on the virgin front.

[Bella]

Tee hee, liv :)

No new news on the virgin front. I talked to Monica last night and she's being such a chicken about the whole thing. I even told her that most people's first times suck ass, and that only made her more upset. She's come to the conclusion that her new girl should just stir the raisin in the pudding for a while to figure out what she likes and then they'll proceed.

Personally, I'd bust from all the sexual tension, but whatever.

[Goliath]

Has anyone ever existed who didn't fumble around (at least a bit) their first time?

[pescifish]

I even told her that most people's first times suck ass, and that only made her more upset.Yeah, no kidding! Going for the backside of things on the first time seems rather daunting. :wink:

[seebs]

I suggest lots of talking about things, to figure out which ideas get her worked up and which just sound weird.

[viscousmemories]

I even told her that most people's first times suck ass, and that only made her more upset.Yeah, no kidding! Going for the backside of things on the first time seems rather daunting. :wink:
:laugh:

[Ensign Steve]

She doesn't want there to be lots of fumbling around and embarassing "so, how's this? no...so this? okay, let's try..."

I am also in the camp of: This is what the first time is all about! :D Monica's way is like opening a mystery novel and reading the last page first!

[Legs]

I suggest they have a nice dinner, have a few drinks, watch a little girl on girl porn, laugh, talk, cuddle and just see where that leads them.

I just made myself horny and I'm not even Lesbianese :eek: