I want a man, but not for that (paradox)

[Bastard]

Thanks to SharonDee for the reminder that I wanted to discuss this.

A long time back (10yrs) I found myself in what I thought was the perfect situation. I was alone (single). I had a house, I had a good job.

I had (this is the important bit) a load of good male mates who I climbed, flew, went on holiday with, attended the gym with, went to the pub with, and generally who enabled my social life with all the things I enjoyed most. Except for sex.

BUT... I was also fortunate to have three good lady friends who I would contact, or who would contact me, for evenings out, most of which would end up with a damn good shag. (is there any other type?) I was not under pressure to have any romantic attachment to them, above and beyond good friendship, there was sufficient sexual attraction for us to enjoy sex, and at the end or the night/morning we parted company until the next time.

I was never lonely. I was sexually fulfilled (there was always my right hand if I needed relief), and had a full social life.

Is there anything wrong with that?

[ITSOZAZ]

nope.

[Gonzo]

not really, no.

[Bastard]

I wonder what the Laydeeezz will think?

[Gonzo]

Ask the three you were with?

[livius drusus]

I'm guessing they won't give a rat's ass either.

[Bastard]

Ask the three you were with?
Long gone away from those, they are no longer (with)in touch.

And besides, the wife may find out.

Seriously though, there is one aspect of this arrangement which hasn't been picked up on yet, I thought a female of the species may do so.

[ITSOZAZ]

are you outting yourself or something? :chin:

[Gonzo]

Does your wife enjoy anal sex, too? Or just those past girls?

[Bastard]

Both on the wrong track

I would not be so gauche as to discus my intimacies with my wife/lover/ soul mate on this forum, thank you.

[ITSOZAZ]

gauche


fag

:gaypride:

[Bastard]

No thank you, I do not smoke.

[ITSOZAZ]

but you're flaming.

[Bastard]

Certainly am not! It's just this hot weather we're having…

Clue; the topic is not about what I had in the circumstance I outlined, but what I did not have. There is a huge clue in why the situation did not continue.

[ITSOZAZ]

Clue; the topic is not about what I had in the circumstance I outlined, but what I did not have.


a penis in your bum?


oh and companionship?

[Gonzo]

Clue; the topic is not about what I had in the circumstance I outlined, but what I did not have. There is a huge clue in why the situation did not continue.

You'll fit in perfectly.

[Bastard]

Clue; the topic is not about what I had in the circumstance I outlined, but what I did not have.


a penis in your bum?


oh and companionship?

Close, but no cigar (on the "companionship", not the bum thing, I had dildos for that. )

[yguy]

Clue; the topic is not about what I had in the circumstance I outlined, but what I did not have. That would be respect for women.

You're welcome.

[Miisa]

I wonder what the Laydeeezz will think?
Those laydeeezz or laydeeezz in general?

I get my shags off with my ex from time to time, even though he is in a new relationship (which I am fairly sure started some time before we split up). I both like and hate being the one he "cheats" with now; hate it because I have become what I hated, but love it because the new bitch is getting some of her own medicine.

But... I do find myself having a hard time keeping emotion out of it, and I will frequently tear myself up some time later when I see or hear some mention of the girlfriend with him. This is probably due to our common history and the fact that I still love him, though, and if he was just a basic fuckbuddy I would be fine(-er) with it. I think.

[SharonDee]

Seriously though, there is one aspect of this arrangement which hasn't been picked up on yet, I thought a female of the species may do so.You had everything but marriage. You wanted that for some reason and so you went out and got it.

Idiot*.




* Keep in mind that I consider ex-hub moving on to wife #4 to be the height of stupidity. Therefore, anyone happy being single who gives it up for marriage is an idiot.

[Bastard]

Nope Sharon, not marriage, so close but no cigar!!!

Miisa almost hit the nail on the head with "emotion"....

[Iacchus]

Is there anything wrong with that?Sometimes the left hand works good too ... for us ambidextrous folks anyway.

[Deadlokd]

Awwwwww, the Bastard wanted love.

[Leesifer]

I have no idea what you think you were missing.

Fuck buddies are fun.

[Bastard]

Awwwwww, the Bastard wanted love.


I suppose that’s as close as we'll get.

It wasn't so much that I "wanted" love, it's just when it happens you realise what you've been missing. And why, despite having a life which was the envy of some of my friends, I was incomplete.

Is it possible to have a truly fulfilling life without love?

I used to think so, now I do not…

[Iacchus]

Love can be awfully expensive, especially once the divorce settlement kicks in.

[Bastard]

If it results in divorce, then it wasn't love...

[Watser?]

If it results in divorce, then it wasn't love...
Ah yes. If you are an atheist now, then you never were a believer.

[Miisa]

I'm divorced, but still love the man whom I married.

[Gonzo]

Miisa, I'm here for you... and all other FF divorcees, Text me tender, babay.

[Miisa]

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