Ari
09-09-2010, 05:00 PM
Ari's Rules of Dancing.
At burning man this year I spent a good amount of time dancing. At one point while trying to find a good stage I started to think up the rules of dancing for 'techno'/rave music.
1. Just cause she has tits doesn't mean you can grab them.
While I rarely see any outright grabbing there is certainly the bogus assumption that just because a girl dresses sexy she is available to any random guy.
2. Stop trying to hump everything that moves.
I understand that this grinding thing is popular but you don't need to wander around hunting for girls to grind. There is a good chance that you will certainly know if a women wants to grind dance with you.
3. Dance to dance.
Go to a bar to 'pick up chicks.' I hear OkCupid is also excellent. This is not the place.
4. Be yourself. Dance to the music.
Yeah it sounds cliche but it's true, being yourself is best. Even if taking on a persona you should still let some of yourself through.
5. Create a safe dance space.
Now we have a nice pattern here, all the previous rules have something in common, they are reasons why people, especially women, don't like to dance in certain areas. Often 'creepy' straight men who have confused the dance floor with the slaughter house drive people away or at least in tight groups. Don't be that creepy person. Especially when the dance floor is all ages.
6. Don't stand or chat. Dance!
It drives me a bit crazy watching people stand or try to have a conversation in the middle of the dance floor, especially when just a few steps away is an area to stand.
Resting is fine but if you could pull up a chair and not change your experience, perhaps you can take it somewhere else besides in front of the speakers.
7. Move that groove thang.
No I mean it! I think many people are much better dancers than they think but are embarrassed to try. This just creates the jig of awkwardness. You aren't too old, too inexperienced, too cute or too proper to let loose just a bit more.
8. Don't possess your 'Ass'.
Couples dancing is great and helping to keep that creepy guy away is great too but sometimes guys take this up a few notches and hover over their 'property' while staring down everyone that comes close. Don't worry, we aren't going to eat her, you can calm down just a bit. She might have a better time too.
9. Short connections.
Most people dance alone (even in their little groups) to thumpy music. Short eye contact, while maybe copying dance moves or experiencing a laugh together is often the best way to dance with others. This is about being in the now, not finding your soulmate or a hump buddy.
10. Many things go.
Most of these rules are in the negative because dancing is about freedom, expression and enjoyment. Not everything that happens actually means anything.
11.Find your music.
Electronic music is varied and it's worth it to find a style you really like. You may even need to wander off from the pack and find the music that really moves you.
12. Find your speed.
Electronic music is also varied in speed although often faster than what most people are used to. If too fast or to slow it's often possible to halve or double the beat while still being able to stay on beat.
13. Don't be an ass.
This should be obvious by now but the world doesn't actually revolve around you. If you are too uptight or have a chip on your shoulder about something then go somewhere else. You do have the ability to control your experience.
While the industries don't want to admit it, dancing in 'clubs' or at 'raves' is affected by their drugs of choice; alcohol for one, the other E. You don't even need to be on the drug of choice to notice the difference as many people slip into expected roles.
At burning man this year I spent a good amount of time dancing. At one point while trying to find a good stage I started to think up the rules of dancing for 'techno'/rave music.
1. Just cause she has tits doesn't mean you can grab them.
While I rarely see any outright grabbing there is certainly the bogus assumption that just because a girl dresses sexy she is available to any random guy.
2. Stop trying to hump everything that moves.
I understand that this grinding thing is popular but you don't need to wander around hunting for girls to grind. There is a good chance that you will certainly know if a women wants to grind dance with you.
3. Dance to dance.
Go to a bar to 'pick up chicks.' I hear OkCupid is also excellent. This is not the place.
4. Be yourself. Dance to the music.
Yeah it sounds cliche but it's true, being yourself is best. Even if taking on a persona you should still let some of yourself through.
5. Create a safe dance space.
Now we have a nice pattern here, all the previous rules have something in common, they are reasons why people, especially women, don't like to dance in certain areas. Often 'creepy' straight men who have confused the dance floor with the slaughter house drive people away or at least in tight groups. Don't be that creepy person. Especially when the dance floor is all ages.
6. Don't stand or chat. Dance!
It drives me a bit crazy watching people stand or try to have a conversation in the middle of the dance floor, especially when just a few steps away is an area to stand.
Resting is fine but if you could pull up a chair and not change your experience, perhaps you can take it somewhere else besides in front of the speakers.
7. Move that groove thang.
No I mean it! I think many people are much better dancers than they think but are embarrassed to try. This just creates the jig of awkwardness. You aren't too old, too inexperienced, too cute or too proper to let loose just a bit more.
8. Don't possess your 'Ass'.
Couples dancing is great and helping to keep that creepy guy away is great too but sometimes guys take this up a few notches and hover over their 'property' while staring down everyone that comes close. Don't worry, we aren't going to eat her, you can calm down just a bit. She might have a better time too.
9. Short connections.
Most people dance alone (even in their little groups) to thumpy music. Short eye contact, while maybe copying dance moves or experiencing a laugh together is often the best way to dance with others. This is about being in the now, not finding your soulmate or a hump buddy.
10. Many things go.
Most of these rules are in the negative because dancing is about freedom, expression and enjoyment. Not everything that happens actually means anything.
11.Find your music.
Electronic music is varied and it's worth it to find a style you really like. You may even need to wander off from the pack and find the music that really moves you.
12. Find your speed.
Electronic music is also varied in speed although often faster than what most people are used to. If too fast or to slow it's often possible to halve or double the beat while still being able to stay on beat.
13. Don't be an ass.
This should be obvious by now but the world doesn't actually revolve around you. If you are too uptight or have a chip on your shoulder about something then go somewhere else. You do have the ability to control your experience.
While the industries don't want to admit it, dancing in 'clubs' or at 'raves' is affected by their drugs of choice; alcohol for one, the other E. You don't even need to be on the drug of choice to notice the difference as many people slip into expected roles.