Possible Girlfriend?

[Johnny Pneumatic]

Guess what happened to me last Thursday. A college student was hitting on me, at least I think she was. This has never happened before. She's uber hot too. Don't know how smart yet though. She invited me to come over to her appartment in June when she moves in. And for Apostate Abe, yes she's Asian. :nyahnyah:

Advice on how to go about this? Ladies give some input also.

[The Lone Ranger]

Well, at the risk of sounding trite, I think the standard advice applies. Doubtless, others will have more useful advice. Still, here goes:

1.) Be yourself! Lots of people try to impress their dates with how smart, clever, <Insert adjective of your choice here> they are, to the point of exaggerating a bit. But what purpose does this serve? If the relationship takes off, sooner or later your SO is going to realize that she has been misled, which will be unpleasant for everyone.

2.) Relax and enjoy yourself -- don't have overly high expectations. Sure, she [I]may be "The One." She may also think you're incredibly attractive and is just dying to get you alone. On the other hand, it may simply be that she thinks you seem like an interesting person whom she might like to get to know a little better.

So, look upon this as an opportunity to get to know her better. The best-cast scenario is that the two of you really hit it off. Wonderful! Even if that's not the case, you'll hopefully gain a new friend. Also pretty cool. If you discover that the two of you really have nothing in common, well, at least you'll know now.

3.) Be attentive, and let her know how you feel. If, after getting to know her, you think she's really attractive, and it seems she might be feeling similarly-inclined toward you, it might be a good idea to let her know. Don't make her guess.


Best wishes!

Michael

[livius drusus]

Excellent advice from Michael, as always. I'd say number 2 is particularly apt. Related to number 3 is the classic listen more than you speak. If you're nervous whatever you say might come out kinda funny sounding anyway, so it's better to ask questions and listen to her than to be chatty yourself.

Of course, the extreme is going to suck either way. You don't want to be so quiet she has to struggle to make conversation.

However it goes, I'm really happy to hear you've made a connection and gotten hit on by a hot chick. That's a great thing. :yup:

[Legs]

1.)Be yourself! (only a little bit better)

2.)Relax and enjoy yourself - (but that doesn't mean taking off your socks and lying on the couch)

3.) Be attentive (but not like a stalker) :yup:

[Godwhacker]

Asian women are the best! Good luck!

[Dragar]

Best of luck, SkepticJ!

[Waluigi]

"Stick your tongue in her ear as far as possible."

I don't remember what movie that is from (cheesy 80s flick about a guy in purgatory that tries to stop the devil incarnate). It's not particularly good advice, but I've never used it before, and thought it befitting.

I'd say, if she does follow through and invite you over, to assume you're just going to hang out with an interesting person. If she starts taking your pants off, just make sure you don't blow your load. :)

Your goal at this point in your life should be making friends and casual dating, so if things do become sexual, don't get weird about it.

Oh, and good luck!

[WinAce]

Be attentive (but not like a stalker)
Hey! What's wrong with stalking, anyway? (And I don't mean the crazy type)

[MooseIBe]

I echo the 'listen' thing ... a man who actually pays attention to what you're saying is a big turn on. Find out what she's interested in and talk about that, rather than going on about just subjects that interest YOU .. she'll be really impressed, I guarantee.

Actually, if there was any way you could find out her main interests beforehand and just learn a LITTLE about them, that would be really cool. Don't, you know, go overboard cos that would make you look like a suck ass but if there are any authors or anything you could find out she liked you could do a bit of reading on them.

[Dragar]

In other words, stalk her to the library, and see what books she gets out. Then, just 'happen' to have read them.

What? Too creepy?

[MooseIBe]

Well, I wouldn't go quite that far but there's nothing wrong with having an idea about the sort of things her favourite authors writes ;). I mean, I wouldn't advocate lying and saying you're a big fan of something when you're not, but knowing a bit about it wouldn't hurt..

[Johnny Pneumatic]

I'd say, if she does follow through and invite you over, to assume you're just going to hang out with an interesting person. If she starts taking your pants off, just make sure you don't blow your load. :)

Your goal at this point in your life should be making friends and casual dating, so if things do become sexual, don't get weird about it.


Blow my load?


What's weird? I mean I'm not into weird stuff.

[Waluigi]

Blow my load?
It was a joke. :) Or did you not know what I meant by blowing your load? I mean having an orgasm.

What's weird? I mean I'm not into weird stuff.
No, I mean getting all emotional about things. Sex changes the dynamics of a relationship for a lot of people, some not for the better. You'll do fine, I'm sure, but you asked for advice, so I gave it...

[livius drusus]

What's weird? I mean I'm not into weird stuff.

I think he means obsessive. That's frequently described as "he got all weird on me" in the literature.

[Dragar]

Blow my load?

I'm guessing this a euphemism for ejaculating before anything sexual actually begins. But I could be mistaken. If that wasn't what it means, I'll suggest it as something not do, anyway.

Edit: He clarified as I was writing. It was that, but it was a joke. :)

[livius drusus]

:laugh: You guys crack me up.

[Dragar]

:confused:

[livius drusus]

No, really. I just thought y'all's posts were funny, like the no blowing a load advice and you saying if that wasn't what Waluigi meant you'd advise it instead.

[Dragar]

No, really. I just thought y'all's posts were funny, like the no blowing a load advice and you saying if that wasn't what Waluigi meant you'd advise it instead.

Well, I thought it was good advice. I've never had such an unfortunate occurance happen to me (chance would be a fine thing!) but I have heard 'stories' that it does sometimes happen.

[Waluigi]

I think he means obsessive. That's frequently described as "he got all weird on me" in the literature.
Correct.

:laugh: You guys crack me up.
Yeah, this thread did get kind of funny. :yup:

[pescifish]

What's weird? I mean I'm not into weird stuff.

I think he means obsessive. That's frequently described as "he got all weird on me" in the literature.I'd advise caution regarding obsessiveness, too.

Uhm, isn't thinking "girlfriend" at this point a bit weird, already? :confused2

[Johnny Pneumatic]

Uhm, isn't thinking "girlfriend" at this point a bit weird, already? :confused2


Not if you saw how she was acting. Note the thread is possible girlfriend. I think she really does like me a lot. Hard to describe how she was acting though.

[Dingfod]

Uh, nevermind.... got nothin'

[latinijral]

1.)Be yourself! (only a little bit better)

2.)Relax and enjoy yourself - (but that doesn't mean taking off your socks and lying on the couch)

3.) Be attentive (but not like a stalker)
:yup:

Translation :

1.)Be yourself! (only a little bit better)--->"Be like Latinijral"

2.)Relax and enjoy yourself - (but that doesn't mean taking off your socks and lying on the couch)---->"Take off all the hats you wear".

3.) Be attentive (but not like a stalker)---> "introduce her first to Latinijral"

Another stupid asshole asking for advice of how to ....deal with ( whatever).... a woman.

:wave:

[Johnny Pneumatic]

stupid asshole asking for advice of how to ....deal with ( whatever).... a woman.

:wave:


When did Sombrero Dick make the crossover from Skeptical Community?

[latinijral]

stupid asshole asking for advice of how to ....deal with ( whatever).... a woman.

:wave:


When did Sombrero Dick make the crossover from Skeptical Community?

Are you talking to me?

:wave: