People Like You

[Sweetie]

I don't know, I thought this was a great idea for a thread and I hope it sticks.

We are so different and I am an unusual person for sure. I thought, if you ever felt misunderstood or whatever, this could be a place for you to explain to others why you don't make any sense to them.

For instance, I would say what people don't understand about people like me is I prefer things like anger for instance, as oppose to any sort of falseness.

That means that I prefer you hate me and you act hateful towards me if you do hate me than if you put on a mask and pretend you like me when you don't.

There's room for tact and whatnot, I'm not saying people should go all out, it's just that if asked for my prefence, I don't labour under such a delusion that everybody should be "nice" for instance.

Anything about you that is hard to understand?

[Dingfod]

Yes. I'm so silly most of the time that nobody thinks I could possibly have a serious contemplative thought. My fault, I guess.

Also, I'm not really an asshole. I really am silly most of the time.

[Crumb]

I'm too much like Warrenly.

[justaman]

And warrenly's too much like me.

[viscousmemories]

I thought, if you ever felt misunderstood or whatever, this could be a place for you to explain to others why you don't make any sense to them.
I have no idea why I don't make sense to anyone, I make perfect sense to me.

[Godless Dave]

I am almost always at least partly joking and partly serious.

I really do respect the women I want to have casual sex with. There are also many women I respect who I don't want to have sex with.

[Beth]

I thought, if you ever felt misunderstood or whatever, this could be a place for you to explain to others why you don't make any sense to them.
I have no idea why I don't make sense to anyone, I make perfect sense to me.You usually make sense to me, and when you don't, I tell you so that you can better explain yourself so an addlebrain such as myself can understand.;)

[Bright Life]

Somebody thinks I'm like YOU, Sweetie. :) A person asked in chat if you and I were the same person!

[LadyShea]

If someone doesn't understand me I assume it's because they're stupid or an asshole or something. Makes life much easier that way ;)

[MooseIBe]

I sometimes feel lonely irl cos of my personality type .. mid way between INTP and INFP. I meet a lot of those online so I am happy, but I don't know so many of them in real life.

I am not anti social or anything; I just feel out of place a lot of the time.

[godfry n. glad]

For instance, I would say what people don't understand about people like me is I prefer things like anger for instance, as oppose to any sort of falseness.

Yeah... I'm like that, too. Some of the most irritating people in the world are those who unctuously smile and do the nicey,nicey thing and then stab you in the back or spread false rumors. Honesty is a valued trait in my book ('course, I have to guess until proven otherwise). Walking one's talk is another.

I suspect that most people don't understand my sense of humor. Eh...that's their problem.

[Beth]

I prefer trying to look past the anger and showing compassion. Hard to do, but what I strive for.

[viscousmemories]

You usually make sense to me, and when you don't, I tell you so that you can better explain yourself so an addlebrain such as myself can understand.;)
I'm sure it's more often than not my own inability to clearly articulate my ideas. :)

[livius drusus]

Interesting thread. I suppose the main thing I feel misunderstood about is my tendency to mediate. It's kind of like the other side of the preferring anger to false niceness coin. When my benefit of the doubt extends way past other people's it gets read as false niceness, cowardice, things like that.

Who knows? Maybe it is a form of appeasement and deserves scorn. It just doesn't feel that way to me because it's a genuine impulse to explain what I see, my understanding of people or arguments or events.

[natasha]

I feel amazingly fortunate that the only person who seems to understand me at all is my husband. Boy, what a couple of misfits we are! We always say to each other that "we're not wired right."

I care about people, the whole damn human race, cry easily, get all worked up over injustices of all kinds, can't stand cruelty to animals, the weak, kids, etc. but I hate people. I mean, I hate being around them. I hate going out in public because there's people! Idiots. Morons. Rude, stupid, ignorant. As a mass.

Put me out in nature and I can stay there forever. Put me in a shopping mall and I can last about half an hour.

I'm a huge faker; I can "maintain" and put on an act and be civil and professional (god knows you have to be in education and social services) but I have a very short fuse when it comes to idiots. To people who don't "get it" and are the cause of their children's rotten life, for example. Or money grubbing assholes who don't see the problem, or worse, do, but don't care. Meetings, don't get me started on meetings. Worthless waste of time.

I don't fit in anywhere. All I want to do is stay in my studio and paint all day. Or be outside by water, in the woods. And paint.

But I'm very polite, or try to be, because it's the only thing that keeps all of us from going psycho. My civility doesn't last long, I can't keep it together and when, after I've done my part in being all reasonable and nice some idiot says something to incredibly lame and outside of the point that I just turn into Jack Nickelson from Five Easy Pieces. (you know, when he orders the sandwich.)

Well, not really. But I know some people look at me and think "god, what a weird bitch, how dare she tell us she's been waiting for a menu for 20 mintues?"

I hate most of our culture: fast food, crap food, eat it, eat it all day long, whether you need it or not, just stuff your stupid face with sugar and salt and drink as much crap as you can. Buy more crap. Listen to crap. Fuck, it's all fucking crap.

Then again, I hate pretenious stuck up neo-beat political commie leftist artists too. What a crock. I'm not some middle class white lady still life painter asshole, get off your rickety soap box and shut up you moocher no one the fuck cares.

I'm like you sweeite in the sense I don't want someone to be fake around me, if you don't like me, that's fine. I probably don't like you either. Don't be all passive aggressive around me. God, I hate passive aggressive people!

I hate our society even more since Bush and his lizard cabal managed to retain their places in the coup, and no one is awake.

The only thing lately I've been kind of enjoying is that now I'm 51, menopausal (say, is it HOT in here???!!) and I it's easier for me to ignore people, or tell them what I think, or just not give a goddamn and wear what I want and do what I want and fuck 'em if they don't like it.

Another thing is, people think I'm sweet and almost retarded because I am sweet (even though inside I'm thinking what a psycho bitch asshole or bastard someone is) (seething with it in fact) and they try the most amazing, incredible crap on me. Then they flip out when I let them know I'm aware of their behavior and they need to stop, since it's illegal, against policy, etc. (I just came out of a situation like that, union involved, everything.) Then they get all passive aggressive lying covering their asses on me and run around saying "I'm so surprised at Natasha, why, she just was so ..." fill in the blank but what they really mean is "Damn! I couldn't get away with my bad behavior and she called me on it! Now she has to pay!"

[LadyShea]

Who knows? Maybe it is a form of appeasement and deserves scorn. It just doesn't feel that way to me because it's a genuine impulse to explain what I see, my understanding of people or arguments or events.

Yep, you're just a namby pamby appeaser ;)

Seriously, if I thought you were some kind of pathological people pleaser I would tell you.

[lisarea]

People tend to underestimate how socially apathetic I am.

Needless to say, though, it doesn't keep me up nights or anything.

[livius drusus]

Outstanding post, Natasha. :appl:

Seriously, if I thought you were some kind of pathological people pleaser I would tell you.

And if I were blind, deaf and dumb, I'd return the favor. :giggle:

[LadyShea]

Outstanding post, Natasha. :appl:

Agreed, Natasha :)

And if I were blind, deaf and dumb, I'd return the favor. :giggle:

:glare:

[viscousmemories]

I'm exactly like Natasha and lisarea, only different.

[godfry n. glad]

Who knows? Maybe it is a form of appeasement and deserves scorn. It just doesn't feel that way to me because it's a genuine impulse to explain what I see, my understanding of people or arguments or events.

Yep, you're just a namby pamby appeaser ;)



A modern-day Neville Chamberlain. :godwin:

I can't say as I've seen it, for you've been in my face a couple of times. Justifiably, too.

[godfry n. glad]

Outstanding post, Natasha. :appl:

Agreed, Natasha :)



I'm in full agreement.

As for Jack Nicholson in Five Easy Pieces, I resemble that remark. I've been there, done that.

What really chafes my hide is someone with a modicum of authority who decides to use it to make others miserable....just for their fun. That brings out the "full Jack" in my personality.

[natasha]

Thanks you guys. I'm pretty new to this forum and after I posted that I thought "wow, maybe I shouldn't have, that sounded erm, uh, well, ...hmmm" then I thought, "oh well. So they'll avoid me like the plague," lol.

Nice to know I was actually understood! And there's more of us out there than I thought. I have hope.

[Waluigi]

When I was a kid, I ate dried oatmeal (the kind in the individual packages) with a spoon. Maple and Brown Sugar was always my favorite. Sometimes I'd have it in a bowl with hot water like you're supposed to, but I was content to eat it dry.

On our third date, my [now] wife revealed to me that she used to eat dry oatmeal packets with a spoon. Apple Cinnamon was her favorite.

I always thought that was a funny coincidence. My family always teased me about the oatmeal thing, and here was someone just like me. :yup:

[livius drusus]

I suspect pretty much everyone can identify with at least one of the elements on your post, natasha. I've got the whole crybaby care about/hate everybody thing going on myself. :chestram:

[Adora]

Anything about you that is hard to understand?
Apparently you have difficulty reading the basic English of my posts. But I don't think that needs excessive explaining.