Cuddle Parties; ie, liv hyperventilates

[livius drusus]

Sweet mother of mercy (http://cuddleparty.com/about/whatis.html).

[Dingfod]

Are they on Ecstasy or what?

[livius drusus]

I don't know, man. They claim to be on nothing harder than Bailey's Irish Cream, but who can say for sure?

[Adora]

I've seen some pretty drunk people from Bailey's.

[viscousmemories]

We strive not only to free people of the awkwardness surrounding arousal, but to allow them to develop some real coordination around it. At a Cuddle Party, erections become Mother Nature's way of giving us the thumbs-up sign. Nothing's wrong. Nothing's dirty. Nothing's suspect. And as long as you're not dry humping anyone (Rule #7), it's completely okay. Really.
Sometimes I think we need us a Rule #7 too. :P

They may be freaks, but at least they've got principles:
Are you guys willing to sell out?

Our committment is to maintaining the integrity of Cuddle Parties as safe spaces for non-sexualized affectionate play. Provided that that committment is not compromised, Marcia and Reid are otherwise completely willing to sell themselves out, as long as it's to someone fun and makes us look even crazier and cooler than we already are! In particular, we would love to hear from Nutella, Apple Computers, Ben & Jerry's ice cream, and Bailey's Irish Cream, without all of which this operation would not have survived this far. Also, coffee. REiD loves his coffee (with Bailey's!)

[Adam]

I read something about those parties a couple of weeks ago. It's probably a symptom of my antisocial unnatural Western upbringing or somethgin, but it doesn't sound all that appealing. There aren't a lot of people with whom I'm comfortable inside my personal space.

[pescifish]

:faint: Now I believe in Hell.

[Gawen]

Remember when you were six years old, and you and your cousins all crawled into the top bunk and squealed and squirmed until your parents came in and had to quiet you all down? Yup.
Or how about when you and your friends would make tents with the sofa cushions and whatever blankets mom would let you play with? Yup.
Short of making tents and trying to fit everybody atop a bunk bed, this is the feel Cuddle Parties are going for. An erection is ok but positively no dry humping. Strange, I don't remember this behaviour when I was 6 years old.
Sure it's okay to touch the one you're dating or married to (that is, if you're still touching each other), but what about the single people? AHHHHhhhhhhh...now I see where this is coming from. It's ok for single people to wiggle themselves into a mass of moving, petting, stroking adults...because they haven't a partner. This is a most unique way to get one though. Kinda reminds me when ya go fishing and open a cottage cheese container full of worms. I guess night-crawlers like cuddling too.
Most of us don't pick up somebody at the bar for a one-night cuddle. Then they aren't doing it right? Soon...a Cuddle training session...will come close to you.
Drunken, sexualized touch borders on desensitized groping. Interesting assertion.
Rule 15. Clean up after yourself. What the hell is there to clean up??? There's no sex allowed. Oh...drooling. Yes. Some may drool. I didn't think of that. Some men may, after kissing and nuzzeling require a trip to the bathroom to clean the inside of the front of their pj's. Remember....erections are allowed. Nothing is said about very premature ejaculations.
Rule 16. Always say thank you and practice good Cuddle Manners. Cums right after rule 15. Ironic isn't it?
Admission is $30 Now THAT'S disgusting.

[seebs]

I dunno, some of my friends are more or less cuddly than others. One of the people in the studio I do anime conventions with is very snuggly, and will curl up on anyone she's reasonably friendly with as long as they don't take it wrong and try to make it into some kind of sex thing.

[livius drusus]

:faint: Now I believe in Hell.

You and me both, sister. Hey, on the non-disgusting, one-on-one, graphical representation side of things, I thought you might dig this :glomp2: so I added it to Positive Reinforcement.

[livius drusus]

I dunno, some of my friends are more or less cuddly than others. One of the people in the studio I do anime conventions with is very snuggly, and will curl up on anyone she's reasonably friendly with as long as they don't take it wrong and try to make it into some kind of sex thing.

Yeah but with total strangers? Is anyone really that snuggly without being into frottage?

[freemonkey]

There aren't a lot of people with whom I'm comfortable inside my personal space.

Amen. You and me, both.

As for the $30 admission, I can think of lots of places I could go and get "touched" for free. :pokes: :gangup:

[Farren]

I think its cool. I understand that some people have a thing about personal space but a lot of peeps who might otherwise complain will let a complete stranger massage them, after all. I think its just a conditioning thing.

[Gawen]

I think its cool. I understand that some people have a thing about personal space but a lot of peeps who might otherwise complain will let a complete stranger massage them, after all. I think its just a conditioning thing.I simply cannot see myself paying 30 dollars to wear pajama's (which I don't have a single pair in my house)...to rub, touch, cuddle, pet, giggle and hug strangers in a pile of strangers on the floor. A massuese is paid for a service. Cuddling is not a service.

[Farren]

The money does put a different spin on it, I suppose, but the cuddling, I don't think that's odd at all.

[godfry n. glad]

The money does put a different spin on it, I suppose, but the cuddling, I don't think that's odd at all.

Next up: Bundling.

Just as background, as a recent widower, I greatly missed the physical contact aspect of my now extinct marriage. It's really tough to go from maximal intimate contact to none at all in less than six months after nearly twenty years of active mutual intimacy. My grief counsellor, a woman, recommended a massuesse, and I must admit that a once-weekly one-hour massage has done wonders to temper the aching desire for touch. Plus, it's relaxing.

I don't think that thrashing about in my jammies with a bunch of "strangers" would have been particularly beneficial. I don't care for the press of crowds, so what is described in the "cuddling party" is hellish from my pov. I like to keep the party small...just me and three or four nubile young women (and no jammies). Besides, how can I sell the cow if I give away the milk for free? :wink:

godfry

[Sonnet]

Ye Gods.

I've seen this on MSNBC.

I'm sure it's all very nice, but I can't help characterizing it in my own consciousness as a way for a bunch of codependents to share their boundary problems.

Count me out. :doh:

[livius drusus]

I don't think that thrashing about in my jammies with a bunch of "strangers" would have been particularly beneficial. I don't care for the press of crowds, so what is described in the "cuddling party" is hellish from my pov.

Exactly. Intimacy with a gaggle of strangers seems a contradiction in terms to me, and a really weird, creepy one at that. The payment, the acceptance, nay, expectation of getting dry-fucked by the same guy you dodged on the subway, the "clean-up"...

It's just gross, y'all.

[Goliath]

I'm kinda torn on this...

On one hand, yes you're paying money to cuddle, so it has the feel of prostitution about it.

On the other hand, though, I'm a fairly touchy-feely guy when I'm intimate, and I can be painfully lonely at times, so the mere prospect of physical contact is appealing....

Since I don't live anywhere near NYC, though, it isn't really an issue, as I very much doubt that I'll ever have the chance to go to one of these parties.

[Clutch Munny]

From the site:

Our society has gotten weird about groups of people touching one another

You don't frickin' say!

[godfry n. glad]

From the site:

Our society has gotten weird about groups of people touching one another

You don't frickin' say!

:club:

happens every day, worldwide.

g&g

[LianaLi]

Hmmm.

With total strangers? :chin:

I don't think so. And you have to pay? WTF?

On the other hand, I've had a few groups of close friends, where it was ok for all of us to get that comfortable with eachother. And I mean, curl up on your good friend's boyfriend, while she curls up on you, and he curls up on another friend, and so on and so forth. Think of the definition of pard in the Anita Blake novels. It's fun. Comforting. Or huge massage circles, with everyone down to bras and undies. You had to ignore the hardons, or it, erm, got messy in more ways than one. Never had much of a problem just accepting the errection as a part of life and shifting around till everyone, including the little man, was comfortable. And no, sex was not involved.

Ahh me. I miss those days. It's hard being a personal space nazi, and a touchy-feely person at the same time. I made the awkard discovery that going without touch at all kills my self-control, once its compromised. Boy did that two night stand benefit from that. Too bad I'm not wired for casual sex. The idea of strangers in my space is just... disturbing.

[beyelzu]

the idea of cuddle parties gives me the fucking willies and the picture made it fucking worse.


I can not stand being touched by strangers. I normally just glare at them. If a new co worker touches me on purpose, you know clap on the back, nudge out of the way, I ask them not to, I do ignore incidental contact. and I used to like being in a pit at a concert which of course entails a huge amount of incidental contact.


a complete stranger cuddling with me.


fuck that.


I repeat.

fuck that.

Ps. I understnad that some other people dont have problems with this, but it definitely not for me.

[Farren]

Y'all need cuddle therapy, Beyelzu, Pescifish, Adam, Lianili and Liv!

:glomp2: :grouphug: :hugs: :cuddle: :smilehug:

Big bear cuddles! Intimate cuddles! Space invading cuddles!

Hahaaaaaaa!

Actually I don't give a shit. I'm just getting a childish delight out of your imagined horror upon reading this post ;)

[RevDahlia]

This isn't PC, but for some reason the idea of a bunch of mildly tipsy (Bailey's, ewwwww) strangers cuddling squicks me a whole lot more than the idea of a bunch of strangers on Ecstasy cuddling.

This could be because I've been in the latter situation but not the former, and the thing that saved it from total creepiness (apart from that snuggling with lots of people while on E feels really. good.) was that E totally short-circuits one's libido, or at least generalizes it to such an extent that one's naughty bits just never engage. It's a very PG feeling, or maybe PG-13 at worst. Cuddling with strangers becomes a much more appealing prospect if there is no threat of encountering an unexpected boner.

As for the cuddle parties?

I'm sure it's all very nice, but I can't help characterizing it in my own consciousness as a way for a bunch of codependents to share their boundary problems.
:yeahthat:

I'd need some heavy MDMA, and the assurance that everyone else was under the influence of same, to even consider it. Blecch.

[Dingfod]

Cuddling with strangers becomes a much more appealing prospect if there is no threat of encountering an unexpected boner.Damn sure takes the fun out of it for me.
:wink:

[LadyXoc]

I'm not the cuddly type.

[JoeP]

the idea of cuddle parties gives me the fucking willies and the picture made it fucking worse.

But you are a picture of a fucking willy. :?

[beyelzu]

the idea of cuddle parties gives me the fucking willies and the picture made it fucking worse.

But you are a picture of a fucking willy. :?
:rofl:

[JoeP]

btw the writing's neater now ... and was that tattoo there before?