Enhancing performance: Assuring quality linguistics

[godfry n. glad]

Okay...This is primarily focused at the woman on the board.

The guys are over nattering away about blowjobs... ho-hum...heh ...same ol' stuff...and nobody pays attention to your needs, right?

Well, this is an end to that deplorable situation.

Now you can get the information out there to all the cunning linguists or wannabes as to how they can assure a quality application. Correct those misconceptions and strike a blow for quality orgasms for women from oral sex.

Tell us what works best. What brings you there and leaves you on:cloud9:.

I won't stoop to using a poll, 'cause that'd limit the answers. This is open-ended...heh.

godfry

[Beth]

As tempting as it is to provide jerk-off materials....:P I think I shall pass. I mean, I think this might one one those lines that I should not cross as mentioned in another thread. ;-)

But I can provide you with links to Cosmo that might touch this subject. Hmmmm... I'm sure there are other sites that provide excellent advise. :D

[godfry n. glad]

As tempting as it is to provide jerk-off materials....:P I think I shall pass. I mean, I think this might one one those lines that I should not cross as mentioned in another thread. ;-)

But I can provide you with links to Cosmo that might touch this subject. Hmmmm... I'm sure there are other sites that provide excellent advise. :D

Awwww...

I do this in the truest sense of equal time, and I'm accused of pandering to my own prurient interests.

Even if you are right, I'm hurt...:sorry: deflated, even. :sadnana:

Alright, that's over, now....everybody else, give us details!

(ooooo...unintended pun, too)

godfry

[Beth]

Hehe, sorry to deflate your, um, ego.

[godfry n. glad]

Hehe, sorry to deflate your, um, ego.

My ego...like other parts of my person...has a short rebound time. :wink:

I'm waiting for the Cosmo links. Good advice is good advice.

godfry

[Beth]

oh you want real advice.

ok.
http://dir.yahoo.com/Society_and_Culture/Sexuality/Activities_and_Practices/Oral_Sex/Cunnilingus/
erm, interesting (http://www.skinful.com/eatpussy.htm)


There was another url, It is in the yahoo directory. It is too sexist for my tastes. It also has porn images. Although, I thought it funny at first, it started squicking me. Maybe other people can give you info. Anyway, a few of these sites offer decent info that do not seem to speak of women as cheap whores.

[seebs]

Hmm. An interesting challenge; talking about the best ways to manipulate a body, without objectifying the person whose body it is...

[Beth]

Oh, I do not think I am objectified in a private act with my husband and if I were, I would not mind if I permited it. But I do think that one of the sites mentioned said degrading things like if the P*ssy does not respond, find a new one or dump the chick( cannot remember the exact words), and calls slow responding genatalia boring and what not. That is what I found offensive. I realize it was humor, but a page of it was rather sexist and nasty, made me feel bad.

[Godless Dave]

The esteemed Dan Savage ran a Savage Love column once where he asked women to write in and say what they liked. He ran some of the letters and apparently all women are different in what they enjoy vis-a-vis cunnilingus.

[Shake]

Just pay attention to her and what she likes. Then do that again and again and again and again and again ...

-Shake
Cunning Linguist

[Bumble Bee Tuna]

well, you could always visit www.the-clitoris.com .

In my experience as a pro linguist, the general secret is to not get too creative in what you're doing, stick to the basic idea of tongue + clitoris = good. But by all means you need to have some variety in pace, direction, pressure, etc...don't just do the same thing all the time. Work on going in waves- do some intense stuff until she's really going, but don't just keep going until it gets to be too much. Back down, cool off, then get right back going again. If it is too much, and she almost can't stand it any longer, be sure you hold on and keep going for just a couple seconds after the breaking point, then back off. That tends to work well. I often take a break where I really pull back for a moment and allow a nice "wow" moment of relaxation...and then get right back to it.

In my opinion, the best and easiest position for giving is the 69 position, man on the bottom. It can still be a non-mutual act, but that position works well anyway. If you're really looking to treat the lady, get set up so she is really supported in the position and doesn't have to strain at all.

Above all, of course, the most important thing is to just try different things, and then like a good scientist, observe what works empirically. Women all have different tastes. Some are more sensitive than others, some can't take it hard and fast for long, some love it like that. So you really just have to pay attention.

Oh, and be sure to heartily enjoy yourself, and go out of your way to say how great it is, and fully alleviate hre fears that it's uncomfortable, smelly, bad-tasting, etc...these are real fears that detract from the experience.

Of course, this is all advice from a fellow guy. A guy who has only performed the act with two other people. But they both gave rave reviews. Heck, the second one was like putty in my hands, desperately begging for more at any opportunity. Which shocked me, actually, I never thought I was particularly talented at it. And it also bears noting that I was the first linguist to perform at that venue, so that could have biased her just a tad.

-B