Conversation after sex?

[Godless Dave]

So I was on another board, and in one thread a woman was complaining about her husband's behavior after sex (he said "thanks", threw her a towel, and flipped on the TV). While the male behavior described in the OP was insensitive, a later poster complained that she had given up on ever getting her husband to engage in "pillow talk" after sex.

My initial response was "Talking after sex? Eww! Why ruin a romantic moment by talking?" The great thing about sex is it relaxes my mind so much it can't function on a verbal level. I don't mind cuddling and kissing afterwards before drifting off to sleep, but talking? That would defeat the purpose. It would be like smoking a cigarette after a good workout.

So is this a male-female difference, or a Godless Dave-everyone else difference?

[Scotty]

In my limited experience, my wife likes to talk before, and I don't like to (because she doesn't talk about sex things, just things she wants to talk about, whatever that is, her plans for the day whatever), it just means I have to concentrate on talking, and not sex. Not good, mood spoiler.

As for after, she isn't in any mood to talk for a while. So hey, I don't have any issues about being insensative because she would have to be the same way.

One thing though, she likes to talk all of the time and is a little chatterbox (she calls herself that), so, that being the one instance when she isn't talking takes it aways as an issue.


-Scott

[Dingfod]

I heard semen described as the elixer of life. Once the male ejaculates he is drained of life and the female recipient of it comes to life. That pretty much describes my side of it. Fuck cuddling or talking after sex, I just want to sleep. "Thank you and good night!"

[Roland98]

I am not a talker either. Cuddling sometimes, it depends on how late it is and how annoying my day has been.

[Clutch Munny]

I'm game to chat snoozily, so long as it's understood that at any moment I might sudd --

:snore:

[Goliath]

I'm kind of a goofball compared to the rest of my gender..I actually enjoy pillow talk to a reasonable extent, ie I don't want to be up talking until 5am (that is, unless I've been up that late for...other reasons :wink: ). I also absolutely love cuddling after sex.

[Godless Dave]

Oh, I enjoy cuddling too. I think it's sweet and romantic. It's the talking thing I don't get. Talking != Romance in my book. And after sex, asking me to talk is like asking a runner to carry on a conversation right after completing a marathon.

[Shake]

My wife is usually asleep before I am following sex. Of course, she normally falls asleep faster than I, so this just follows.

Oh, and she likes talk during sex! It really gets things going! :D

[Dingfod]

Whew! On first reading I thought you said your wife was usually asleep before you had sex. Had me worried there for a minute.

[seebs]

I require scritchies. After a minute or two, I can be persuaded to talk, but I prefer to just be scritched. But I'll talk for hours, before, after, and during.

Actual conversation:

Seebs: (inappropriate joke)
Chartreuse: <folds arms across chest> No sex EVER for comedians.
Seebs: (little kid voice) but... where do the LITTLE comedians come from?

Anyone who can't take being mocked shouldn't fuck me.

But I love talking, and will happily talk about nearly anything.

[Adora]

Yeah, because everyone knows, being mocked is the biggest turn on ever.

[seebs]

Yeah, because everyone knows, being mocked is the biggest turn on ever.

Well, I have to work extra hard to be any good at all in bed, because I am a champion mood-breaker.

But... Beloved Spouse puts up with me, so I guess it works. (Actually, flatteringly enough, she's apparently borrowed some of my traits for an incubus in Metanoia.)

[SharonDee]

Please! What would we possibly talk about?
:eyebrow2:

"No, I didn't cum this time, either. But what another valiant effort on your part!"

[pzmyers]

Conversation? How can you do that with all the screaming and thrashing and struggling and gunfire and sirens?

[viscousmemories]

Conversation? How can you do that with all the screaming and thrashing and struggling and gunfire and sirens?
No, no. The question was after sex, not preceding.

[JoeP]

Conversation? How can you do that with all the screaming and thrashing and struggling and gunfire and sirens?
No, no. The question was after sex, not preceding.
He* clearly implied this was during, not (just) before or after. Don't you have gunfire and sirens during sex?

* pzmyers ... I think you're a he ... apologies if you are another gender :confused2

[Sweetie]

My initial response was "Talking after sex? Eww! Why ruin a romantic moment by talking?" The great thing about sex is it relaxes my mind so much it can't function on a verbal level. I don't mind cuddling and kissing afterwards before drifting off to sleep, but talking? That would defeat the purpose. It would be like smoking a cigarette after a good workout.

So is this a male-female difference, or a Godless Dave-everyone else difference?

-this female agrees with you. I'm not big on snuggling and neither is my husband. Just parting and going to sleep though sometimes is a bit cold after spending so much intense time together, so about two-minutes of cuddling is good enough for me.

[Sweetie]

Seebs: (inappropriate joke)
Chartreuse: <folds arms across chest> No sex EVER for comedians.
Seebs: (little kid voice) but... where do the LITTLE comedians come from?

Anyone who can't take being mocked shouldn't fuck me.

-lol, yeah I know the feeling. If I'm thinking something funny and I tell him and get him to chuckle then he's done. He'll say, "look, now I've lost the mood" and of course he's still chuckling and then I'll laugh even harder over his trying not to laugh so he can be serious and have sex expression. :roflmao:

[seebs]

-lol, yeah I know the feeling. If I'm thinking something funny and I tell him and get him to chuckle then he's done. He'll say, "look, now I've lost the mood" and of course he's still chuckling and then I'll laugh even harder over his trying not to laugh so he can be serious and have sex expression. :roflmao:

Heh. We've just accepted that there's such a thing as silly-mood sex. :)

[Bumble Bee Tuna]

cuddling after sex, to me, is basically the best part. And I'm really not a big fan of talking, either. There's just no need- it detracts from the experience. We've got all fucking day to talk, let's just enjoy the moment, eh?

[livius drusus]

Yeah, not much of a cuddler, but I just thought I'd pop in and say :hisign: to Bumble Bee Tuna. Okay, okay, I'll throw him a bone, but just cause it's his first day. :hug: Don't get used to it or anything, BBT.

[Godless Dave]

liv, I'm glad you posted in this thread, but I'm not sure whimpering "I am not worthy" while kissing the tips of your stilleto heels counts as "conversation".

[livius drusus]

Not even if I say "Damn right you aren't. Now kiss faster!"?

[Beth]

All I wanna hear is how damn good I am in even a simple word like, "Wow!"
and I am content. Cuddling,...depends on how hot we are. I am not too keen on cuddling sweat. Towels are such a lovely thing.

[Beth]

Please! What would we possibly talk about?
:eyebrow2:

"No, I didn't cum this time, either. But what another valiant effort on your part!"
I shall only say Bahahahahahahaha!!!! Without divulging anything else. ;):P

[Godless Dave]

I am not too keen on cuddling sweat. Towels are such a lovely thing.
Showers are even better!

[Beth]

I am not too keen on cuddling sweat. Towels are such a lovely thing.
Showers are even better!
True, but realisticly, many parents finally are able to be frisky in the wee hours in the morn after spending hours getting the little sleepless li'l ones to finally enter Slumber Land. By then, sex is fortunate enough, one daren't expect a post coital shower from a tired man.

[Gawen]

Not any more. I feel pretty stupid talking to myself in the shower.

[Beth]

Not any more. I feel pretty stupid talking to myself in the shower.
:roflmao: It took a second to get this.:roflmao:

[Petra]

So I was on another board, and in one thread a woman was complaining about her husband's behavior after sex (he said "thanks", threw her a towel, and flipped on the TV). While the male behavior described in the OP was insensitive, a later poster complained that she had given up on ever getting her husband to engage in "pillow talk" after sex.

My initial response was "Talking after sex? Eww! Why ruin a romantic moment by talking?" The great thing about sex is it relaxes my mind so much it can't function on a verbal level. I don't mind cuddling and kissing afterwards before drifting off to sleep, but talking? That would defeat the purpose. It would be like smoking a cigarette after a good workout.

So is this a male-female difference, or a Godless Dave-everyone else difference?

I hear ya, Dave.

Hell, I don't even like talking before sex: All I can think is "shut up already, and show me what you're made of!"

Talk is overrated.

[Sycophant]

Oh, I enjoy cuddling too. I think it's sweet and romantic. It's the talking thing I don't get. Talking != Romance in my book. And after sex, asking me to talk is like asking a runner to carry on a conversation right after completing a marathon.

See with me it's more like trying to carry on a conversation with an athlete who has just completed a triple jump. Or maybe a shot-put.

But we talk sometimes and cuddle a lot. Of course this is from memory, because since I made her pregnant (and by extension very very sick -- hyperemesis (http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=hyperemesis)) I haven't actually had sex again. And if things continue the way they are, I may never again.. Oh well.

[Desert Dweller]

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[aeroz19]

When I am married, I think I wouldn't want to talk much after sex. Cuddle though, yes, definitely.

[Lanakila]

-lol, yeah I know the feeling. If I'm thinking something funny and I tell him and get him to chuckle then he's done. He'll say, "look, now I've lost the mood" and of course he's still chuckling and then I'll laugh even harder over his trying not to laugh so he can be serious and have sex expression. :roflmao:

Heh. We've just accepted that there's such a thing as silly-mood sex. :)


I just love silly mood sex, and serious sex, and rip our clothes off fucking. :giggle: I think I just like sex of most all types.

[lady cop]

no, it's ok...i know how he feels and how i feel, i just undo the :cuffs: and tell him i love him. :hearts: