How do you feel about being gay?

[Philosophy]

For those of you who are gay, you probably know better than us who only 'speculate'. After all, years of sexual psychology studies cannot be compared to a true genuine first-hand account of how you yourself feel when you know you're gay and how you cope with it. Is there any societal thing that prevents you from accepting the fact that you're gay? Do you feel prideful at all or ashamed?

It is perhaps hard for gays to find an 'intimate' friend of their choice. It is probably too hard to come up to another boy and ask him out, for example? If this is the case for you, how do you deal with it?

/me takes out his psychology notebook and will begin recording people's answers shortly.

[Dingfod]

Are you obsessed with homosexuality?

[Legs]

I've had it with all these gay/attention seeking threads of yours. Sorry- you are on ignore. :hand:

[Philosophy]

I've had it with all these gay/attention seeking threads of yours. Sorry- you are on ignore. :hand:

What's with you all...?

Weird... :glare:

[Philosophy]

Are you obsessed with homosexuality?

No. I'm not. I've started to fall apart from it gradually as people seem to ignore it.

Bye. This thread on ignore.

[Dingfod]

You can ignore a thread you started? Okay... I guess.

[erimir]

Is there any societal thing that prevents you from accepting the fact that you're gay?If I didn't accept the fact that I was gay, I wouldn't be answering your questions, would I?

i.e. this question is useless. "Gay people who identify as gay, is there something that prevents you from identifying as gay?"
Do you feel prideful at all or ashamed?I try not to. Generally no. But social influences are hard to ignore all the time.
It is probably too hard to come up to another boy and ask him out, for example? If this is the case for you, how do you deal with it?I have only outright asked someone (at an event that was not specifically gay/gay-friendly) if he was gay in a way that made it clear that I was interested once. I was drunk and in Sweden. I would not do that here in North Carolina.

You get around it by trying to get clues if someone is gay, going to gay social events (where that isn't a worry) or by using personals.

What about you? You're a guy, you're attracted to me. How do you feel about that?

He's obsessed cuz he wants in my pants and this is like, his first gay-crush or something like that. I don't know... :confused:

[D. Scarlatti]

You can ignore a thread you started?

:laugh:

I tried it: you can. I don't know how to unignore it though.

[Dingfod]

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[D. Scarlatti]

Thanks.

How do you feel about being gay, by the way?

[Sweetie]

What's with you all...?

Weird... :glare:

You've been shunned by all the cool people. :eek:

Assimilate quick before you lose all. :melo:

:popcorn:

[Bella]

One of my coworkers (female, straight) and I were discussing this the other day. We were speculating whether or not lesbians have it easier than gay men, when it comes to dating. She was saying that if a female came up to her in a bar or something and said, hey, you're hot, let's blow this joint and go home and blow each other, she wouldn't particularly mind. She'd just let them down just as she would if a man came up and offered her attention that was undesired. Now, to test this theory, we asked one of our male coworkers what he'd do if a gay man came up and asked for a date/sex/whatever, and the guy said he'd punch him in his fuckin' face. We said, what if it was a girl? And the guy said he'd make fun of her if she was ugly and say yes if she wasn't.

Obviously not a very thorough sampling of the population, but it was the best we could do at the time :) .

[Carnivale Ed]

we asked one of our male coworkers what he'd do if a gay man came up and asked for a date/sex/whatever, and the guy said he'd punch him in his fuckin' face. We said, what if it was a girl? And the guy said he'd make fun of her if she was ugly and say yes if she wasn't.
You work at Disneyland? Who the fuck is this guy?

[TomJoe]

When I'm gay I'm happy. I don't know why you posted this to the Sexuality forum. :chin:

[Bella]

we asked one of our male coworkers what he'd do if a gay man came up and asked for a date/sex/whatever, and the guy said he'd punch him in his fuckin' face. We said, what if it was a girl? And the guy said he'd make fun of her if she was ugly and say yes if she wasn't.
You work at Disneyland? Who the fuck is this guy?Disneyland? Where'd that come from? No, he's just another line cook.

[username]

She was saying that if a female came up to her in a bar or something and said, hey, you're hot, let's blow this joint and go home and blow each other, she wouldn't particularly mind.

Females use the expression "Blow" to describe sex acts with other females? Interesting. Does this refer to oral sex or something else?

I do think that female homosexuals have an easier time with homo or bi sexuality than males though. I think it is probably a cultural thing. Boys/men grow up looking at images of female/female contact and it is considered normal. Guy/guy contact is not considered normal or mainstream (although that appears to be changing). As a result I think females are permitted within modern culture to be gay/bi without the adverse stereotypes that men are subjected to, at least to the same degree.

There was a time when I knew a lot of 'swingers' and virtually all of the women were self described as bi and virtually none of the men were. In fact many of the men commented that if we (meaning me and the wife) were interested in them there would be no male/male contact beyond the incidental, but F/F contact was OK and sometimes expected/desireable.

Always seemed like an odd thing to me.