[Demimonde]

wildy, if I could thank your post twice I would.

Incidentally, in the not too distant past treatment for the victims was ignored as it was assumed they didn't have a problem. That was due to the normalization of domestic abuse and ideas abiut a woman's place. A tinderbox that is in the process of being deconstructed. If only work could be done to change those perceptions of the abusers, treatment might just be achieved more easily.

ETA, and also an amen to the connection to victim blaming and treating the victim. "If only we could stop women from enabling abusers and wanting to be abused then domestic violence would disappear!" seems to be the message. Only it hasn't and it won't. Not until the other side of the equation is addressed.