Damn, fuck, damn, damn, fuck, damn, fuck, damn, damn, damn, son of a bitch, fuck! She signed off because she was ending up talking in a "monosyllabic fasion". Well, thanks alot guys for the wonderful advice: yeah, keep asking them questions about themselves. I just hope I haven't bored her off forever.
yeah, keep asking them questions about themselves.
Who the hell gave you THAT advice? How the hell can someone relate to you if you tell them nothing about yourself?
Among others, I gave that advice. I think the advice was and is sound, although I admit it certainly can be taken to an extreme. Lesson learned: Don't offer SkepticJ any advice in any of his many threads begging for advice unless I want to be blamed for him striking out with a girl.
Damn, fuck, damn, damn, fuck, damn, fuck, damn, damn, damn, son of a bitch, fuck! She signed off because she was ending up talking in a "monosyllabic fasion". Well, thanks alot guys for the wonderful advice: yeah, keep asking them questions about themselves. I just hope I haven't bored her off forever.
I believe that advice was given for a face to face meeting.
__________________ Of Courtesy, it is much less than Courage of Heart or Holiness. Yet in my walks it seems to me that the Grace of God is in Courtesy.
What sort of questions were you asking? Open-ended questions that inspire a long answer are going to be better than yes/no queries. For example, ask "What do you like about where you live?" rather than "Do you like where you live?" That might avoid the monosyllabic thing.
Feel free to ignore, I'm hardly the fount of knowledge when it comes to chatting up girls...
But it can be a way to get someone to start talking... and it's better than only talking about yourself. And as was said, to avoid monosyllabic responses, ask open-ended questions like, what did you do today? What kind of music do you like? etc.
And feel free to talk about yourself as well. I mean, if they say something that sparks your interest, you can go there. Like, "Oh yeah, you like X band? I love that band!" so on and so forth.
I would like to see this conversation now, cuz blaming us when we don't even know exactly what you did isn't gonna help.
But it can be a way to get someone to start talking... and it's better than only talking about yourself. And as was said, to avoid monosyllabic responses, ask open-ended questions like, what did you do today? What kind of music do you like? etc.
And feel free to talk about yourself as well. I mean, if they say something that sparks your interest, you can go there. Like, "Oh yeah, you like X band? I love that band!" so on and so forth.
I would like to see this conversation now, cuz blaming us when we don't even know exactly what you did isn't gonna help.
Among others, I gave that advice. I think the advice was and is sound, although I admit it certainly can be taken to an extreme. Lesson learned: Don't offer SkepticJ any advice in any of his many threads begging for advice unless I want to be blamed for him striking out with a girl.
Or simply add in some qualifiers. I'd rather not have gotten that particular advice though, in hind site. It also wouldn't matter so much it this was just a random somebody, there's probably not too many people as great of a match for me as her within my whole ass wipe state. Certainly none others that I know of, so putting her off is, how do you say, a really bad thing.
You just said that you did all kinds of things as well as ask her questions about herself, so why are you blaming the questions for her logging off, nevermind blaming the people who suggested you ask her stuff when you whined about not knowing what to say.
You just said that you did all kinds of things as well as ask her questions about herself, so why are you blaming the questions for her logging off, nevermind blaming the people who suggested you ask her stuff when you whined about not knowing what to say.
I agree with username wholeheartedly. Good luck.
Because she said that's why she was logging off.
I've not seen her on today either. This could be for several reasons: she's on a field trip for college(she goes on lots of those for her classes), she doesn't want to talk to me again(hopefully this is a baseless worry), or she's busy doing something else.
Yeah, it would be nice. I was so happy for that day that I thought I had met someone who liked me, maybe she still does, but I feel terrible again. Since thinking about this is just wasting the water I drank today down my face, I think I'll retire for today.
If you're experiencing these extreme mood swings pursuant to what every goddamn male on the planet has been through at one time or another, then maybe your problem is a bit more serious than some chick logging off her instant message system at an inconvenient time for you.
Originally Posted by scarletpeaches
Maybe Skep's just really really ugly?
skepticJ: Maybe so.
Meh, I don't think you're ugly. You're rather average looking (like me, heh). I don't think blaming your looks on your inability to get a gf is reasonable. Far uglier guys than you have roped themselves hot girls.
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Yeah, it would be nice. I was so happy for that day that I thought I had met someone who liked me, maybe she still does, but I feel terrible again.
Seriously, lighten up. Acting so uptight, as though your life will end if you don't have a successful conversation with this girl, only makes you look like an insecure, desperate moron. Relax. Act relaxed around her. The problem is that you're trying to hard. Be polite, be friendly, but don't trip over yourself in a desperate attempt to make her your soulmate. (BTW, MSN isn't a great tool to chat on. Net conversations tend to degenerate rather quickly.)
And if she doesn't like you? Oh well, that's life. I didn't get my favourite flavoured ice cream for dessert... big shit. There are plenty of girls out there.
A LARGE number of guys your age are single. Having a girlfriend isn't a measure of success or coolness. I've seen plenty of miserable couples at uni which reaffirm my faith in remaining single until I'm sure that I have the right girl.
Originally Posted by scarletpeaches
Maybe Skep's just really really ugly?
skepticJ: Maybe so.
Meh, I don't think you're ugly. You're rather average looking (like me, heh). I don't think blaming your looks on your inability to get a gf is reasonable. Far uglier guys than you have roped themselves hot girls.
Among others, I gave that advice. I think the advice was and is sound, although I admit it certainly can be taken to an extreme. Lesson learned: Don't offer SkepticJ any advice in any of his many threads begging for advice unless I want to be blamed for him striking out with a girl.
Or simply add in some qualifiers. I'd rather not have gotten that particular advice though, in hind site. It also wouldn't matter so much it this was just a random somebody, there's probably not too many people as great of a match for me as her within my whole ass wipe state. Certainly none others that I know of, so putting her off is, how do you say, a really bad thing.
Add in some qualifiers? Okay, how about this: Ask her about herself as a result of ACTUALLY GIVING A SHIT ABOUT WHO SHE IS AND WHAT SHE WANTS. You still don't get it. You're looking for a combination to the lock, so you can get what you want. No matter how you dress it up, that's ultimately what you're doing. Until you get over this desperate need to get something out of the females you talk to, you're going to keep getting shut down.
Oh, fuck!
I just hope I haven't bored her off forever.
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