Member News Discussion - Page 105

Watser? · #**2601** 03-29-2009, 01:46 PM

I'm sorry Shelli :hug:

wildernesse · #**2602** 03-29-2009, 03:25 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your mother-in-law, Shelli.

And, PW, it is good to see you back around these parts. Good luck on your classes.

Angakuk · #**2603** 03-30-2009, 12:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Shelli

I didn't like her as a person very much, but I found out in the end that I did, in fact, care about her regardless of my dislikes.

Condolences, Shelli. This, however, is a good thing to know about yourself, that you have the capacity to care about someone despite your personal dislike for that person. If you didn't already know this about yourself, then you have gained a valuable personal insight.

Shelli · #**2604** 03-30-2009, 02:45 AM

One of the hardest parts of it all is watching and feeling the grief in my husband and my father-in-law. It's not every day that you see a grown man cry, let alone two. All I can do is be there with a hug. I can't take it away. I would if I could. It's also a big help that my sister-in-law and I were able to go through her clothes and such which included picking out an outfit for her to be dressed in for her wake. It was much easier for us to do that than her sons or husband. I also made arrangements for his kids to fly up from New Mexico Tuesday and got the itinerary to his ex-wife tonight all via computer which I'm better off doing even if he wasn't going through this.

Tomorrow, we're going to see the funeral home guy to make arrangements for the wake and then going to pick out flowers afterward. Part of today was spent going through pictures to find some that will be put in a slide show at the wake. That was actually kinda fun today and helped lift the mood a bit.

Then, I'll come home, get the bills paid, get the place cleaned up, and get a place to sleep for one of the kids made up. The other kid will stay with my husband's father. They'll most likely take turns. His father will appreciate the company, I'm sure. Right now, he's staying with my husband's brother and his wife.

The wake will be Thursday followed by a small Catholic service and she'll be cremated afterward. They are still debating as to what to do with the ashes.

As for me, I'm just going to do my best to stay calm and focused on getting what needs to be done, done.

I just wish I could get the image of her just after she died out of my mind, but that doesn't seem likely. It's not pretty when your bowel dies and the contents have no where to go except the path of least resistance. And it was horrifying watching and listening to her try to cough just before and then realizing what it was she was coughing on. Life sucks so bad sometimes.

inland wave · #**2605** 03-30-2009, 04:04 AM

Shelli, I am so sorry. Life does suck bad sometimes.

Demimonde · #**2606** 03-30-2009, 04:22 AM

I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Good luck in the days ahead. I know that you will be busy taking care of the ones you love, but be sure to take care of yourself too.

Doctor X · #**2607** 03-30-2009, 09:00 AM

Remember BCG and Malloch:

--J.D.

Shelli · #**2608** 03-30-2009, 12:21 PM

Plant Woman · #**2609** 03-30-2009, 05:54 PM

Congrats on the job Wildy!

Oh and you baby makers! Way to go! Knocked up and ready to go!

Shelli, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Sending hugs to you. :hug:

Plant Woman · #**2610** 03-30-2009, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by wildernesse

And, PW, it is good to see you back around these parts. Good luck on your classes.

I'm glad to be back, although not as much as I would like. Feeling better these days after getting over the initial shock of what happened. I still have bad days, but the good days are happening more now, so I hope that is a good sign.

JamesBannon · #**2611** 03-30-2009, 06:21 PM

Legs! i missed that, sorry :hug:

Hope it goes away soon.

Shelli! :hug:

Death is always hard to bear for us humans (and bowel infarctions are nasty). Just as well the docs loaded her up with morphine. Good that you knew how to deal with it and gave appropriate support.

Congrats, ES! I'll bet Bey can't wait! :cheer:

Congrats on the new job, wilde :cheer:

Hope I haven't missed anyone!

Plant Woman · #**2612** 03-30-2009, 06:43 PM

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Hope I haven't missed anyone!

Demimonde · #**2613** 03-30-2009, 06:54 PM

Sorry PW I missed you too! CONGRATULATIONS! :cheer:

Shelli · #**2614** 03-31-2009, 01:22 AM

I know some of these are pretty old by now, but here goes anyway..

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Originally Posted by inland wave

A letter from the state board of Cosmetology came in the mail today....I couldn't wait for eldest daughter to come home so I opened it. (My bad)
OMG she passed!!!! She was so upset when she came back from testing. She just new she had failed everything. She made an 82 on her written test and 87 on her practical. I am very happy for her. Now to conger up a pathetic story to freak her out before we give her the good news.

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Originally Posted by Adam

I don't know if this counts as news, but I'm not dead or anything, I've just been dealing with a lot of mostly work related shit, as well as the fact that I have 0 willpower when it comes to :ff:

. Liv tempted me into looking at the forum today, though, and I've already wasted like an hour and a half here.

for Adam not being dead! :larrybounce:

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Originally Posted by biochemgirl

Malloch has finished all his coursework :cheer:

He did really well in his classes too. I'm really proud of him and all the work he's done. He should be able to start the trip home later next week.

Good job, Malloch! :victory:

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Originally Posted by Shake

By this time next week, I'll have completed another quarter towards my BSEE, 4 classes in all. I think I'm looking at a pair of B's again this time, though there is a small chance I could pull an A out of one of them. We'll see.

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Originally Posted by Legs

I think I am having an Myasthenia gravis attack again... I haven't had one in 3 years if you remember I had the double vision and was in the hospital. I thought I was in remission because I've felt so well for so long, but something is going on with me again now. :sadcheer:

I already commented on this, but here's another :hug:

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Originally Posted by Ymir's blood

Off to Atlanta to visit curses and the mister, see the Pogues. Back on Tuesday.

There's milk in the fridge and be sure to feed the lolcats.

Hope you had a good trip, Ymir. :keep:

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Originally Posted by Ensign Steve

I filed for divorce today. It'll be final in six months and a day or something arbitrary like that. I don't really have any emotions about it except the satisfaction of crossing an item off the Shit I Need To Do list.

Yay is ES and bey! :larrybounce:

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I'm leaving for NJ in a few hours. My great aunt passed away on Sunday, service is tomorrow morning.

I'm sorry for your loss, Shake. :hug:

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Originally Posted by ChuckF

Driving up to DC tomorrow to take the TCF on Friday. No real reason, but hey, why not? So you know, :crossed:

and all that.

Go, Chuck! :french:

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Originally Posted by biochemgirl

Got back from vacation last night. We kayaked in the ocean, climbed up a waterfall, went zip lining, did Jamaican bobsledding, went on a glass bottom boat ride, swam in the ocean, and just relaxed. It was so beautiful and we had a great time.

Glad you both had such a great time. :vibes:

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Originally Posted by biochemgirl

Oh..my other bit of news, or I should say our other bit of news. I was going to wait to say anything since it's so early but Malloch isn't able to contain his excitement so....we just found out I'm pregnant. Malloch is over the moon, I am a little scared shitless and in shock. Should be a November baby.

I commented on this too, but here's another :w00t:

for you both and the baby to be. :=D

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Originally Posted by bobeh

I retired a while ago...but have not been posting regularly, and when I do check in I never thought about putting it in here. But, here is.

And I'm now going back to work part time. But on a take-it-or-leave-it basis.

Contract work, 2 and 3 week stints with a week or two between them. More humane than the past.

Here's hoping all goes well. :=)

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Originally Posted by wildernesse

I have a new full-time job that starts in a week.

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Originally Posted by Plant Woman

I am back in school next week with a measly 9 credit hour schedule. Oops I mean 8. All about Web Design, have to learn Dream Weaver in one class. YUCK, I loathe that program!

Good for you, PW! :jumpjoy:

JamesBannon · #**2615** 03-31-2009, 09:31 PM

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Hope I haven't missed anyone!

Belated congratulations :hug:

Plant Woman · #**2616** 04-01-2009, 01:16 AM

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Hope I haven't missed anyone!

Belated congratulations :hug:

I was just teasing you. I know how easy it is to miss something when trying to catch up. Oh and thanks! :hug:

Shelli · #**2617** 04-01-2009, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Deadlokd

I'm off to residential school in Rockhampton this morning. I have an eight hour drive ahead of me. Bleurgh. I'm doing a semesters worth of lab work for two subjects in eight days with one day in between. Yay! It is actually not a bad way to learn it all, although writing ten page lab reports every night after finishing at 8:30 gets old quickly.

I'm taking my daughters laptop with me and the place I'm staying is supposed to have wireless, so I'll still be around.

Enjoy and good luck. :teach:

Smilin · #**2618** 04-01-2009, 02:59 PM

Sorry for your family's loss Shelli. :hug:

Shake · #**2619** 04-03-2009, 07:35 PM

Some belated congrats for wildernesse!

California Tanker · #**2620** 04-04-2009, 07:15 PM

Well, good luck BioChem and Malloch.

Not that I know much about parenting, myself, but I get the feeling you'll need it.

NTM

biochemgirl · #**2621** 04-04-2009, 07:51 PM

I would thank you but there's no "thanks....I think" button.

Deadlokd · #**2622** 04-05-2009, 01:05 AM

Sorry I didn't reply earlier Shelli. I'm sorry for your family's loss. Even the family members we don't like much enrich our lives. Every person that drops out of your life is a loss.

Demimonde · #**2623** 04-07-2009, 07:38 PM

Dragar!

To dust off an old chesnut: Polls have shown that the number one fear of people is public speaking, followed closely by the fear of death. Which means that most people would rather be in the casket than delivering the eulogy.

:geek:

The geek shall inherit the earth.

Watser? · #**2624** 04-07-2009, 07:43 PM

You have shown your nerd cred, Dragar :lowfive:

Dragar · #**2625** 04-07-2009, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Demimonde

Dragar!

To dust off an old chesnut: Polls have shown that the number one fear of people is public speaking, followed closely by the fear of death. Which means that most people would rather be in the casket than delivering the eulogy.

That's hilarious. While I find speaking nerve-wracking, it's actually quite an adrenaline rush (like much public performance is). So there's at least some enjoyment to counter the nerves.

Of course, I'll be talking in front of many more soon, and that may well be a bit more nerve-inducing. Then again, it will be a much shorter talk and won't be talk-and-chalk (as this one was).