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Originally Posted by Veritas
Except that would teach the kid he gets whatever he wants if he whines hard enough, 'cause Grandma will always go behind Mum's back even if she says no.
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Except in this case Grandma set the whole issue up by taking him to a toy store, which was not in the day's plan. She should not have put him in that position. The kid wouldn't have wanted the toy if he hadn't seen the toy. And since she did take him, she should have bought him something (within limits). What's wrong with "Okay you may choose something under 10.00" or some other guideline/boundary?
It's a 9 year old, you simply can't take him to a toy store and all that temptation then not expect he will want something.
What possessed her to take him to Toys R Us, then let him look around, then encourage him to call his mom?
She was the adult in charge that day,
she made the decision to break from the fun day planned,
she took him the toy store because it was his "special" day. If it was his special day out with Grandma, then she should have been prepared to buy him a special treat when she decided the park and McDonalds wasn't special enough or whatever.
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Originally Posted by Veritas
I'd say it was checking with the parent to seek their permission, which was the right thing to do in my book.
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Nope, again the trip to the toy store wasn't in the original plan, they were supposed to go to the park and McDonalds...there never should have had to be a phone call.
If my parents or whomever take my kid for a special day out, they do not need my permission to buy him something with their own money. It's their money and their grandson and they can treat him. However, my parents wouldn't put him in the position of being in a toy store when it wasn't clearly okay with me...or wouldn't make
him call me if they made a last minute decision to do so, and put me in the position of being the bad guy.
It was a nasty thing to do. If nothing else Grandma should have called, or bought the toy and discussed it with the parent later in private. What she did caused friction between parent and child that was unnecessary.
And those who see this as a reason to not have kids...all of this could have been avoided by NOT taking the kid to the toy store. It's not rocket science.
All that being said, long windedly, although I think Grandma is the most responsible for the situation, I would still have a talk with my kid so he understood why I had said no, and what he could do to make me more likely to say yes at some future point, or what he could do to earn the specific toy.