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Old 03-10-2010, 09:59 PM
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It is with a sad heart that I bid this forum goodbye. After spending a day in tears from the pain of my own past traumas, I realized that to stay on this forum is not good for me. I can't handle that people think that child abuse is something to joke about or make fun of. It is too painful. When I clicked on the link I had no idea that it was a joke about child sexual abuse. Gawd, it was awful and I can't handle it.

Thank you Megatron and Doc for your notes to me, I appreciate it. I am going to miss the laughter, fun and good conversation and threads that made me think, it was all good, except for this one thing. I hope some will realize the pain they cause when joking about other people's trauma. I don't know when something like this became an acceptable thing to do, but I want you to know how painful it is for us who have suffered. It is not something that goes away.

Liv please ban me so that I am not tempted to come back in and post, I don't want another day like yesterday and it will help me to avoid stumbling in on something that causes me so much pain. It's going to be tough as this is a daily habit for me, that has turned into something not good for my well being. :sadcheer:

I will come back in and read this thread if anyone cares to leave some words. I will miss many of you and some I will keep in touch with over on Facebook.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:03 PM
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I hope some will realize the pain they cause when joking about other people's trauma. I don't know when something like this became an acceptable thing to do, but I want you to know how painful it is for us who have suffered. It is not something that goes away.
Some people use humor to deal with their own traumas, as was mentioned several times yesterday. It wasn't about you until you made it about you.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:04 PM
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Take care, PW. I'm sorry you're leaving, and especially that it's under these circumstances.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:06 PM
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I'll do what you ask, of course, but I do so very reluctantly. Over the years we've discussed these topics before seriously and with delicacy, and will in all likelihood do so again.

Before I press the buttons, I'd like to ask that you try implementing the ignore features we have to help people choose what they wish to be exposed to in this forum. That thread can disappear for you, as can the people who are prone to make that kind of joke.

You have a long history here, p-dub, and this is just one thread. I very much hope the long history can come to outweigh the one thread for you.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:06 PM
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I am sorry you feel you need to leave over this PW, please take good care of yourself.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:08 PM
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What liv said. I'd personally much rather you use ignore to hide the stuff that makes you uncomfortable rather than leave altogether.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:17 PM
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It is with a sad heart that I bid this forum goodbye. After spending a day in tears from the pain of my own past traumas, I realized that to stay on this forum is not good for me. I can't handle that people think that child abuse is something to joke about or make fun of. It is too painful. When I clicked on the link I had no idea that it was a joke about child sexual abuse. Gawd, it was awful and I can't handle it.

Thank you Megatron and Doc for your notes to me, I appreciate it. I am going to miss the laughter, fun and good conversation and threads that made me think, it was all good, except for this one thing. I hope some will realize the pain they cause when joking about other people's trauma. I don't know when something like this became an acceptable thing to do, but I want you to know how painful it is for us who have suffered. It is not something that goes away.

Liv please ban me so that I am not tempted to come back in and post, I don't want another day like yesterday and it will help me to avoid stumbling in on something that causes me so much pain. It's going to be tough as this is a daily habit for me, that has turned into something not good for my well being. :sadcheer:

I will come back in and read this thread if anyone cares to leave some words. I will miss many of you and some I will keep in touch with over on Facebook.
Both my sister and I were abused as children (and to be perfectly clear I mean sexually abused in addition to more garden variety abuse), you deal with trauma your way and I will deal with it mine. The thing that gets to me is that I don't get sanctimonious and fuck with you for the way you deal with the "slings and arrows of outrageous fortune." Yes I think Pedobear is funny but it wasn't about you. You could ignore the thread or start another thread saying that you found that picture or my post in poor taste. You could put me on ignore as well. I am sure that you wouldn't be the first around here and that is one of the things that makes this forum so great.

As an aside this could have been done with a pm, your need for self inflicted drama is unhealthy. I hope you come back but more importantly I hope you get help.

Maybe I am a prick because of my childhood, perhaps, but I don't do passive-aggressive bullshit. It is one of my finer qualities I think.

Farewell, Plantwoman, I hope you find peace at least as much as I think it is unlikely that you will do so.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:30 PM
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I'd be sorry to see you go, PW. I hope you reconsider, but I understand if you don't feel OK about it.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:40 PM
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I'm sorry to see you leave, PW, but the decision is yours, take care.

I will say, though, that as has been mentioned, many people deal with hurt and pain with humor; myself being one of them. Like millions of others, I've been abused, hurt, misled, fucked over, fucked with, and kicked repeatedly while I was down by people I love/d. With that said, I'm a sarcastic, joking, smart ass about the-too-many-bad-things-that-happen-in-this-world-every-second-ever-day-to-count and about my own life lessons, whether of my own doing or someone else's. It's how I deal.

Not everyone sees/uses humor in the face of adversity, but certainly, many do. I wish you luck in keeping yourself shielded from that humor.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:45 PM
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It's to bad we're losing a major portion of the better posters because of a minor few.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:46 PM
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Don't worry, MT, I'm sure she'll be slumming at the Grotto soon enough.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:49 PM
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:( Why is this hostility necessary? First I've seen a serious amount on this board.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:51 PM
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What others have said.

Being able to stay away from triggers is very important. My GF purposely ignores the news because it makes her depressed, and I have started doing that too. Just the same, being able to ignoring that thread is important.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:53 PM
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I ask that you NOT do this, PW.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:54 PM
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It's to bad we're losing a major portion of the better posters because of a minor few.
I like PW, but how is she a "major portion of the better posters"?
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:55 PM
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Well as long as we are all agreed that bey and I are a minor few of the better posters, the rest is just arguing semantics.
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Old 03-10-2010, 10:58 PM
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I hope you'll reconsider PW, I would be sad to see you leave over this. Especially when it is so easy to ignore people/threads.
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:04 PM
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What major portion of the 'better posters' have we lost?
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:21 PM
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I imagine he's referring to that time I told Smilin' that he was a fucking pervert and everything he posts makes me want to take a shower and then he cried and ran over to Garnet's fucking secret crybaby forum and was like "omg bey and ES are so means! :cryhome:"

As if Smilin' was ever a better poster anywhere.
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:26 PM
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There is a private crybaby forum?


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Old 03-10-2010, 11:32 PM
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I like PW, but how is she a "major portion of the better posters"?
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What major portion of the 'better posters' have we lost?
To be honest, there were only two, now there's one. Doc, don't leave too.

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I'm a member so it must be a crybaby forum. And that post just eliminated your chances of crying over there too. We're watching you. *holds two fingers up to eyes then at slimshady*
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:47 PM
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I'm sorry to see you go PW, especially since there are alternatives.

I hadn't even noticed that Smilin was gone. When did that happen? The only other posters I can think of that have left in recent memory are Julie, Uthgar and Sov.
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:50 PM
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Smilin hasn't been posting much, I didn't know he left. He was my secret santa, and he was still around when it finally arrived, so it can't be that long.
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Old 03-10-2010, 11:58 PM
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Sorry to see you go, PW. :sadbye:
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I'll miss you PW. :kickscan:
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