[mickthinks]

Hello again viscousmemories!

My nice behaviour becomes the thing you fight about.
This conclusion wouldn't follow from your premises even if they were correct.

I agree, it isn't intended as a conclusion from premises. It's an observation, and I think it is an accurate one. The whole point of ad hominems like "Ooooh! Passive aggressive" is that they are substitute disputes, to maintain your hostility when you realise your position on the real issue has collapsed.

"Passive aggression", the way it is used by almost everyone here, is just a big fat and noxious red herring.

Mick