Hello again, viscousmemories
Now if my sarcastic comment about your stupid greetings was my irrational, knee-jerk easy way out, how do you explain the fact that I gave a very specific example of the behavior that I thought was passive aggressive (ie. saying "Thanks!" when no reasonable person would believe that you are thankful)
A specific example, or just a specific pretext for a complaint with no real substance? I think it was the latter.
No other explanation is needed.
...then went on to mention other things that bothered me about your posts?
I didn't mean to imply that 'passive aggressive' was the only rock you threw at me, merely that it was an easy rock to throw (but a very tricky one to deflect).
But as anyone can plainly see, your repeated claim that I pulled "passive aggressive" out of thin air simply because I'm too lazy, thoughtless or timid to tell you what I really think obviously holds no water.
I don't think I said or implied anything about you being too lazy, thoughtless or timid. What I am saying is:
- I think most allegations of passive aggression at
are attempts by one party to blame their own hostility on the other person and win sympathy for what might otherwise be inexcusable behaviour.
- Pillorying someone for their politeness is a classic example of a diversionary ad hominem.
- There's a danger that, in the absense of a concensus on what 'passive aggression' should mean, the phrase becomes code for "it's your fault we can't contain our anger".
...it's even more clear that the general rule about me (and others here) that you have extrapolated from this gross misunderstanding of my comments is wrong too.
I don't believe I have grossly misunderstood your "passive aggressive" comments.
…when no reasonable person would believe that you are thankful…
Why shouldn't people believe I am thankful to be engaged in a dialogue? I think this is an unreasonable conjecture off which hangs a lot of unjustified hostility, for which I am unjustly being blamed. Unless you can support it with some firm evidence, may I ask you to withdraw it?
Mick