FWB???

quiet bear · #1 10-11-2006, 04:05 AM

Ok, this was sprung on me today at work. We just hired about 1/2 dozen people, and I was training this guy on driving a fork truck. So, his cell phone rings (which annoyed me no end to begin with), and he went to answer it, and I told him they weren't permitted in the warehouse. So, he looks at it and says "Oh, it's just my fwib, anyway"

So, of course, I ask him, what's a fwib?

He says it's his 'Friend with benefits".

So, of course, my first thought is, it's some sort of insurance person or something, so I ask him what kind of benefits he's getting. He just starts laughing. Then he explains:

A friend with benefits is a person of the opposite sex, (or the same sex, if that's your preference), that you don't have a romantic relationship with, but you know is safe and you have sex with when you aren't in a relationship with anyone.

Has anyone else ever had one of these relationships, or even heard of them? I mean, I'm not knocking it, but I guess I really don't know what to make of it. The fact that it has an actual name is kind of weird, I guess.

I mean, personally, I've never had a friend with benefits. I guess it has it's merits, i.e., the safeness of being with someone you know.

Any thoughts on this? Good or bad points?

Joe · #2 10-11-2006, 04:57 AM

I've heard of it. I guess it's a fall back plan when you want some ass but aren't in a relationship. People are going to have sex...so I guess this doesn't surprise me.

Sweetie · #3 10-11-2006, 05:44 PM

My one friend calls them "bed buddies."

The problem is, she had a bed buddy, and it was a few years in duration, they just got together to sleep with each other when they had no one else. She claims it's completely platonic, just a pleasure thing.

Problem is, last time I saw her, her bed buddy found someone.

This......girl who claimed it was so simple, easy, said things that made it sound like that was just fine, yet behaved the complete opposite. She was depressed by it, sounded like she was a bit shell shocked. I feel bad for her, but find it amusing at the very least, that she wants to claim ease when in reality, there is none, she's deeply affected. She can pretend all she wants, I'm not buying.

People are different, I just think that it's not so easy to stay unattached to the other person after it goes on for a longer time, and especially for the women, if it's enjoyable.

I had one relationship, non-sexual, but which followed an interesting pattern. At first we were more personal, less intimate as far as just the idea of intimacy/closeness. As it progressed and became more involved, we were less personal, more intimate, because we were trying to supress the emergence of feelings we hadn't wanted to have, and weren't supposed to be there, while not having to lose each other in the process.

What happened was that we lost everything, and that's unfortunate. Sex can complicate things with friends, and often does. Someone can try to make me believe that it doesn't, this is the new age, things are different. Nah, psychology and biology are still the same. :shrug:

There may be a few oddballs out there, however.

beyelzu · #4 10-11-2006, 06:13 PM

sometimes people tell stories to illustrate a point, you know like fucking aesop or some shit. only aesop well he made his characters animals and whatnot so you would know its a fucking parable. i think some people who use this literary device are either fucking liars or should mention that they use such a literary device.

and the term that was popular was fuckbuddy.

Tanda · #5 10-11-2006, 06:20 PM

pescifish · #6 10-11-2006, 08:00 PM

Here's a thread with a similar question: Is there any such thing as NSA sex?

Joe · #7 10-11-2006, 11:03 PM

I guess it's different strokes for different folks once again.

But, as was said, sex does complicate everything. I really don't believe that I buy into the whole "sex with no strings attached" line.

I do not think one can seperate the biology of sex from the psychology of sex.

Just my opinion.

Ensign Steve · #8 10-11-2006, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by pescifish

Here's a thread with a similar question: Is there any such thing as NSA sex?

Similar, yeah, but different. I mentioned a long-term NSA sex partner in that thread, but when I think of FWB or fuckbuddies, an entirely different person (okay, couple of people) come to mind. :giggle:

D. Scarlatti · #9 10-11-2006, 11:33 PM

I thought NSA sex had something to do with removing the tampon.

Joe · #10 10-11-2006, 11:40 PM

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Originally Posted by D. Scarlatti

I thought NSA sex had something to do with removing the tampon.

chick · #11 10-13-2006, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by quiet bear

A friend with benefits is a person of the opposite sex, (or the same sex, if that's your preference), that you don't have a romantic relationship with, but you know is safe and you have sex with when you aren't in a relationship with anyone.

Has anyone else ever had one of these relationships, or even heard of them? I mean, I'm not knocking it, but I guess I really don't know what to make of it. The fact that it has an actual name is kind of weird, I guess.

I mean, personally, I've never had a friend with benefits. I guess it has it's merits, i.e., the safeness of being with someone you know.

Any thoughts on this? Good or bad points?

I've never heard a person pronounce "fwib" before, but I've used the term "body buddy" to describe my own such past relationships. (That was in the 1990s, isn't it lovely how language evolves).

It was always fun to have an ex on the side, or a friend from town, someone to just fuck with no strings attached. It's not that big a deal.

Ensign Steve · #12 10-13-2006, 04:20 AM

Oh yeah, ex sex is awesome. :yup:

Joe · #13 10-13-2006, 04:27 AM

Hmmmm...I wonder what the odds are of me getting a little ex sex? :blowme:

Hey Tan, you can join in...I mean...that would only be fair and all! lol

Tanda · #14 10-13-2006, 04:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Joe

Hmmmm...I wonder what the odds are of me getting a little ex sex? :blowme:

Hey Tan, you can join in...I mean...that would only be fair and all! lol

Hey, Mister...

Joe · #15 10-13-2006, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Tanda

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Originally Posted by Joe

Hmmmm...I wonder what the odds are of me getting a little ex sex? :blowme:

Hey Tan, you can join in...I mean...that would only be fair and all! lol

Hey, Mister...

Oh yeah! Use the paddle baby!

Nightson · #16 10-13-2006, 08:39 AM

Had one for almost ten months till she got a boyfriend.

If this relationship goes the way of her past ones, I've got about three more months before I get benefits again.

IRON MAN · #17 10-13-2006, 10:48 AM

I am straight down the line monogamous. I only want one woman - end of story, and I am not interested in fucking around with the rest of the population, before, during or after.

That means in my mind, every other woman in the world, (except the one I am interested in), is a potential friend at best.

I like having female friends, and I really mean it when I say that's all they are.

The most trouble I have with that is getting it through their thick heads that I'm 100% serious about what I say.

I've had to ditch a few for stepping over the line, and I've had some that just gave me a uneasy feeling about the whole thing, but on the upside I've had and have some real top notch chicks in my life and wouldn't fuck that up for anything.

What's better, is that it didn't take my wife long to figure out what kind of man I was, so we knew we could all hang out and have a good time without her wondering if I was playing footsies under the table with one of my "friends".

That's one of those good things in life you just can't buy.

pescifish · #18 10-13-2006, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Ensign Steve

Similar, yeah, but different. I mentioned a long-term NSA sex partner in that thread, but when I think of FWB or fuckbuddies, an entirely different person (okay, couple of people) come to mind.

Oh yeah! I should have made that clear -- they are different, as far as I think of them.

I just figured quiet bear might like to add another acronym to his sexual alphabet soup repertoire.

pescifish · #19 10-13-2006, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by D. Scarlatti

I thought NSA sex had something to do with removing the tampon.

It's really much harder to remove them when they are NSA. :stalling:

livius drusus · #20 10-13-2006, 08:18 PM

yguy · #21 10-13-2006, 08:21 PM

Is it just me, or does she look hungry?

Artemis Entreri · #22 10-13-2006, 08:31 PM

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Originally Posted by IRON MAN

I like having female friends, and I really mean it when I say that's all they are.

The most trouble I have with that is getting it through their thick heads that I'm 100% serious about what I say.

Sometimes the harder it is for them to get you the more they want you. Some women must really like a challenge. My best friend seems to have this pattern with women, he just want's to be friends and they are soon throwing themselves at him. He actually told a couple of girls that he was gay... it doesn't work... or maybe it does :chin:

, since he eventually ends up with them.

IRON MAN · #23 10-14-2006, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Artemis Entreri

Sometimes the harder it is for them to get you the more they want you. Some women must really like a challenge. My best friend seems to have this pattern with women, he just want's to be friends and they are soon throwing themselves at him. He actually told a couple of girls that he was gay... it doesn't work... or maybe it does :chin:

, since he eventually ends up with them.

I think part of the problem is they also get to know for a fact that I am 100% loyal, which is just the kind of man some of them are after, (or the opposite of the kind of man they are sick of), which in turn makes me more attractive to them.

The irony of course is that if they could have me that would disprove my loyalty in the first place. But I don't think that immediately matters on some emotional level.

IRON MAN · #24 10-14-2006, 12:36 AM

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Originally Posted by yguy

Is it just me, or does she look hungry?

I'm hoping that as her friend, you also have leave to talk to her seriously about her fashion sense. Or is that different with a FWB?

BDS · #25 10-14-2006, 12:42 AM

[QUOTE=IRON MAN]

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Originally Posted by yguy

I'm hoping that as her friend, you also have leave to talk to her seriously about her fashion sense. Or is that different with a FWB?

Based on his advice about topics of conversation, we can assume that IRON MAN is gay.

I always had my suspicions about billionaire industrialist Tony Stark.